42:51 Well said man. Let's take some time because we have 15-20 minutes left, let's focus only on the solutions and me and my girlfriend talk about this stuff a fair amount and do our best but sometimes we slip into the examples that we've seen where we have fights where we slip right into it and I know it is happening You know, this is fucking stupid. What are we doing? But you get egotistical and you want to win. How do we keep from slipping into that? How would you describe a model positive female-male relationship?" Yes! Excellent question and I like your candor too because that's so important because a lot of times us men, we ego it's like...I'm not going admit that I...and my wife and I talk about this a lot. My wife and I never argue, never have, never argue or fuss in fight
43:38 Because the thing is this, brother. I'm sure you've had your trials and tribulations and struggles in life And i'm sure that your girlfriend has had them Even a term girlfriend-I don't like using the term but I'll use it here uh Uh, I'm sure that you care for her But i'm sure that she's been through her traumas trials and tribulations too and see a lot of us because we've been traumatized In life um when we have an opportunity to experience something greater We should really embrace it, you know to experience something that is... let me just use an example like for instance my wife. She had such a horrible childhood that why would I want to harm her in any way when she spent so much of her childhood already being traumatized?
44:14 you some sense of why would i so in other words like as a man my objective is to try to make her life this peaceful as possible has blessed us possibly have the power to do that and she had the power to do that for me in the same thing much although was so horrible in in no traumatizing you know what i'm sure in her mind cycle if you don't if i can spend the next fifty years with this this man and we could just be looked at do our best not bargain fussing fight not to bring each other drama not to hurt each other then that's the thing they do because what will what were ultimately doing it returns in the paradigm of our child who was rooted rooted in trauma so i thought i mean it's different ways we can look at the foot as a man of his one minute understand is very important that you know you have to be the one who's at the front line of defense for your mate or your wife for your girlfriend would have been what i mean by that is that if anyone else or anything else was don't harm her you should be at the frontline of the defense that's what a man does but also means checking their own behavior within you may be harming her too
45:06 You see what I'm saying? So what this gets to is that as men we have to have a level of self-discipline. And see, for a lot of us we don't have self discipline We're not raised that way It's like carefree, you know, we do what we want to, we have sex with many women if we want to, it doesn't matter But we have to be more sensitive than that Especially when in the context of male-female relationship because we are now dealing with a woman and it once you get into that union whether in a marriage with the support of your boyfriend girlfriend would have been living together you're supposed to be as a masculine being the primary protector of the woman with but also means that you protect her from yourself if u half aspects of your character that wants the fuss and fight you wanna win what are we trying to win you know it's it's not a competition and see
45:48 when you're just let me my sister different levels of awareness for a man when you get to the point where you realize your true power your power is not to dominate or to win your power is to make sure that you're in service to your mates at that her life can be as blessed as it can before the rest of her life and see the thing is that you have the power to do that for but you have to discipline yourself we have to be self-discipline to such a degree to we don't allow yourself to get to the point where u rk your harming her anyway and i want i want people understand that uh... arguing it is a form of psychological trauma you know because ultimately what people are doing they are trying to argue with the public at who would be the model or with people inside looking up and that's fine don't try to debate me in our unit this as the slightest is still going to agree with anything i could say that's fine too just move along so big deal but the point being is that when people argue what's taking place is one person for both people are trying to brutalize the other person using words to such a degree that the other person will capitulate and accept their view
46:45 So the point being is that ultimately it is a form of warfare. It's just using its verbal warfare And so for you men out there, just think about it You know Why would you want to verbally go into war? Verbally with your mate if he's supposed be the protector or are you supposed to really love her and care for her see doesn't even make sense so what i'm suggesting for me to do is just you know check that behavior and you should be the one to check it first because you have the power discipline yourself as a man mask in being use a okay if we get to that point i can see a starting to give them rev up to the point when albert first were talking calmly and then we started talking a little bit louder than we thought he did like now arguing never going back before now we're yelling at each other stop it indian instead of it before even gets there and say you know what